IAM so delighted to introduce you all to my Divine sister… the Magnificent Nadine Marie from the Philippines. I resonate so much with Nadine, her life journey and her choice to make the embodiment of her Divine Essence, priority these last few years as we all continue to clear old patterns and beliefs and open up more to our own highest potential. Nadine has been both student and teacher in many ‘spiritual healing’ classes, but now rests comfortably in her own consciousness, shining her presence, her truth, her own darkness & light… after all we are Human and Divine… and people who come across her, whether physical or virtual can feel instantly great and take on ‘The Master’s’ presence that we all are, but rarely allow ourselves to be.
As in my own life, I see Nadine’s work or ‘creative play’ inspiring others of how the Master lives. Allowing self to be the observer of the Human game, standing in acceptance of all of self and everyone, honouring each story; being the love, knowingness and abundance that flows through the Human vessel and being the explorer and discoverer of a new multi-dimensional story that unfolds in a beautiful harmonic experience… here on the physical Earth. The Master birthing New Earth from within.
How synchronic that today we find ourselves entering a high energetic/vibrational day of the Solar Eclipse, August 21st 2017. A wonderful opportunity for everyone to stand together (I imagine us all holding hands around the globe) with our fellow Divine brothers and sister, opening our hearts wide with the intention of clearing the remnants of all our Human suffering, allowing ourselves to be empty vessels to receive our highest potential in which to move into ‘The Master’s Story’ a new DivineHuman experience… It is time to embody our own Divinity. It is time to have a loving, joyful multi-dimension experience here on the physical plane AND so it happens for all who choose.
Nadine shares her feelings on Compassionately Listening & Observing instead of Rescuing…
Rescuing tendency. It is deeply ingrained in my system. It was the pattern behind my motivation to ‘help’ and ‘be of service.’
There was so much drama in my life — others’ and my own, beginning with my family of origin. I ‘thrived’ in them. In the dramas.
I, subconsciously, sought it out. I attracted the ‘lost souls.’ The ‘poor me’s’ and their endless victim stories. The more dramatic and tragic the narratives, the more compelled I was to help. To come to their rescue.
Thankfully, I’ve now become so much more aware of this dysfunctional pattern. I have begun to address it. I’ve started creating a new, empowered pattern in response to such situations.
Nowadays, I am repulsed by dramas. They’ve lost their appeal.
I have lost interest in listening to someone pour their hearts out to me — especially if all they want is to vent without any intention of moving out of victim mode. If they want to stay stuck in their agony, then I just have to let them be.
Victims feed off the drama; they are compelled to feed the drama.
I don’t. Not anymore.
These days, I can only patiently and compassionately listen for a few minutes. Having lost the compulsive desire to pull them out of such a situation, all I want is to quickly get away from such energies.
And the loss of interest isn’t because I don’t care.
Oh, I do.
I do care for the well-being of others. I want to see them unburdened. I still have the desire to alleviate the suffering.
But if I don’t act on that desire, does that mean that I don’t have any compassion for them? If I don’t help or do anything proactively to relieve the other of their suffering, does that make me indifferent, cold, and uncaring?
I just know now that there are times that people need to go through painful situations because it is part of their growth process and evolution. They have something to learn from it. There are qualities that they need to develop. Skills to master. And the only way for that to happen is for them to go through what they’re going through — including the difficult ones and no matter how painful.
And with that awareness, I’m mindful now that I do not instinctually ‘help’ or immediately do something to get them out of their miserable state.
I’m not talking about situations when someone had an accident, is drowning or in similar cases requiring immediate action and response. I’m talking about non-emergency situations.
Without a doubt, my desire for the suffering individual to be alleviated of their agony is there. But I’ve realized that I need not be the one tasked to relieve them of the pain. It isn’t my responsibility — as a rescuer is wont to believe.
I’ve learned to allow them to know for themselves what the most rightful choice is for them. For them to tap into their inner reserves. To develop self-reliance rather than co-dependency.
When asked, I will offer my suggestions. But only when asked. It isn’t for me to decide and determine how they must live their lives.
There’s also such a thing as timing and readiness.
When these individuals are ready, they will get out of their suffering — without my intervention and participation. When it is time, they will rise above their adversity. And I am in no position to decide when that time, timing, and pacing is for them.
In the end, they will come out wiser.
The most empowering and most sensible choice that I must do is to sit back and watch them make their choices. I may not necessarily agree with their decisions. Some of their choices may turn out to be unwise and lead to even more suffering.
But I just need to trust and know that whatever those choices are, they are opportunities for the individual to grow and become better versions of themselves. At the end of the day, it is for their highest good and for the highest good of all concerned.
Am I doing it for them or for me?
When I hadn’t quite figured out how to deal with someone in pain, I found it difficult to just be with the person. To just hold the space for what they’re going through. I was too controlling, too quick to want to jump and fix the situation.
I felt uneasy witnessing the other person’s pain. I felt helpless. I wanted them to be cheerful once again. To rise above their agony and move on. And move on right away.
I thought I wasn’t helping when I wasn’t doing or saying anything. I thoughtlessly and automatically gave my unsolicited advice. I thought and believed it is what would give comfort.
I had realized that what I truly wanted to overcome was my own discomfort in seeing the other person suffering.
My motivation to help wasn’t coming from a genuine desire to alleviate the other from their suffering. What I wanted to remove was my discomfort in seeing someone else’s pain.
I wasn’t doing it for them. I was doing it for me.
More pain to the already troubled and agonizing individual.
I’ve done this to others; other people have done it to me as well.
Thankfully, I’ve come to realize that when we’re at a loss for what to say or do, we can simply say, “I’m sorry for your loss/what you’re going through, and I’m so sorry you’re hurting. How can I help?”
For someone who is suffering, no words can best describe the pain. No words can surpass the depth of the agony. Nothing seems to come close.
Often, the suffering individual feels like all the world’s burdens are upon them. At times, no amount of reassurance can help lighten the load.
What the individual needs is our Presence.
Our Presence tells them I am holding the space for you. Our silence says I am honoring your process.
And often, our Presence, our Silence can have a deeper impact more than any other words of comfort. Often, that’s what a suffering individual needs. Our Compassionate Silence and Presence.
And here comes feigned positivity…
There is one misleading teaching in many spirituality/new age circles which has propelled even more this common tendency to want to rescue — the need and emphasis to just ‘think or be positive’ all the time.
There is the false belief that being in states of sadness and suffering, experiencing difficulties, and going through periods of darkness are unhealthy or bad. There’s something ‘wrong’ with the person or their life. But there isn’t anything necessarily ‘wrong’ with misfortunes. I’m not saying, though, that they are to be desired — that we must aspire for them. However, they do come with the territory called ‘Life.’ With our earthly human experience.
There are seasons and cycles in life — as Nature has been teaching us. Our lives are made up of pleasant and bitter times. Moments of distress as well as joyousness. We need both yin and yang to be in balance.
And the more we can embrace the need for the balance of the Yin and Yang in our lives, the Positive and the Negative, the Light and the Dark, the more we can relax, be at ease, allow, and welcome the pain and suffering — others and our own. We stop playing the Rescuer and Enabler.
Instead, we become a Compassionate Listener and Observer, offering the most empowering and comforting gift to those who are in the midst of confusion and suffering — our Compassionate Presence.
My blog site, Aligning With Truth, was born out of my long-held dream of a healing center*.
In 1998, at the height of my career, while living a typical, stressful corporate executive life in the IT industry, an illness became my wake-up call**. It wasn’t life-threatening, but I experienced miraculous healing nonetheless. I realized how imbalanced my life was.
My insatiable quest for Truth brought me to the world of healing, consciousness, and spirituality during which I received a vision for a center for healing and spirituality. My quest led me to turn my back on the corporate world in 2000 after being in it for 16 years.
I spent the next years bringing myself back to wholeness and balance. I learned various healing modalities and techniques. During a four-year sojourn in Northern California, I gained proper credentials in preparation for becoming a healing practitioner. These include, among others, a Diploma as a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner from the California Institute of Healing Arts and Sciences***, and an MA in Consciousness and Transformative Studies with specialization on Healing and Consciousness**** at JFK University.
In 2010, I returned to my country of origin, the Philippines, with the intention of setting up my healing practice and center. Its manifestation proved to be quite elusive. It also didn’t take long for me to feel a strong disconnection from my roots and origins. Establishing a healing center and practice took a back seat. I began my search for my geographical island home — another creation that has yet to see fruition.
My travels to the countryside may not have led me — yet — to a physical place that I can truly call ‘home.’ But my many adventures — and misadventures — led me to places, people, and situations which have been instrumental in leading me back to the depth of my core and essence. To who I truly AM. To my ‘inner home.’ My inner sanctuary.
And it is through these travels — inner and outer — that I gained clarity about my dream of a center, mainly why it did not materialize.
It dawned on me that I wanted to create a healing space and practice just to meet society’s expectations. After my intensive self-healing, the next most logical step was to ‘help others heal’ by becoming a healing practitioner and ‘teach’ others about how to heal themselves. I thought that was the only option available for me.
I also became aware that I was operating out of the ‘Old Paradigm,’ the ‘savior model’ which celebrates the caretakers and martyrs and promotes the “selfless way of being of service.” I was also influenced by the distorted ‘more is better’ ideology. Put these together, I had believed that the more selfless I am and the more people I’m able to ‘help’ and ‘heal,’ the more admirable and noble I’d become. I was creating to please and impress other people instead of following my bliss.
I likewise realized that if what I want is to be instrumental in someone else’s growth and transformation, I don’t need a building for a healing center. I don’t need a classroom to teach. A building or a classroom is merely the physical aspect, the form. And it is only one of the many forms.
“Healing,” “helping,” and “teaching” had also taken different meanings for me. And my deep inner work re-directed me and strengthened my passion for writing and the joy that I derive from it.
With the shifts in my perspectives, I let go of my dream of a healing center — of the physical form, at least. I re-focused my energies to only those that give me the most joy, one of which is writing, blogging, and sharing. Originally created as a marketing tool for my healing center and practice, Aligning With Truth has evolved to become a virtual center through which healing, transformation, and growth takes place — in myself and others.
I continue to keep my focus on making the unconscious conscious, on anchoring, embodying, and integrating with the New Energies. And with much Joy, I write about my experiences and insights as well as the tools and resources that are helping me which I share on my site, Aligning With Truth. It is how I participate in and contribute to the shifting of the consciousness and ascension of humanity and our planet. This, while trusting that those who need the message and whose lives I’m meant to touch will find their way to my site. It doesn’t matter how or how many. And this, without a building or a classroom.
Nadine would love to share her ‘insights’ with you via her social media.
Thank you so much Nadine for being The Master, spending time sharing your journey with us and for your wonderful perspective on Compassion and life moving forward.
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